Lessons in Life: How Do They Pertain To Wellness?
As I write this, I want you to understand the profound impact these lessons have on wellness. After hundreds – probably thousands - of hours in different kinds of therapy, I’ve learned these, and I’d like to share them. They might be helpful to you.
Lesson #1)
Stop looking for ways to get offended. Stop taking things that weren’t meant for you personally. The compliments were given to you DIRECTLY, virtually or in person, please accept them. I’ve done that, and I’ve taken “bad compliments,” too. It’s constructive criticism. Embrace them. Living offended isn’t good for health. I passed the test, and I’m graduating today. I can tell you I’m passing it with flying colors! It feels good to say this.
Lesson #2)
What your cousin’s neighbor’s grandmother said about you doesn’t pertain to you. Whatever the many cooks who spoil the broth say don’t pertain to you. Tune into your own inner voice, and you’ll be happier. Always use positive words when talking to yourself. You’ve got no time to waste. I’m close to graduating from this, too. Actually, I’m deciding I’m graduating from this, now.
Lesson #3)
Don’t put words in other people’s mouths. Gossip is destructive. It destroys your own reputation besides the reputation of the people you’re talking about. I’m not perfect, but you won’t have to see me in any scenario gossiping about people, inventing stories, or commenting about them unnecessarily. If it isn’t about healthcare, or if it isn’t about a patient with another healthcare provider, I don’t talk about anybody.
Lesson #4)
We live in diversity. Our culture, in general, isn’t the way we think it should be. Each person has their own experience inside of them. We should let it flow and accept people are different from each other, like different kinds of clothes, music, art, etc. This was tougher for me to accept, but I’m also graduating from it.
Lesson #5)
This goes a little deeper into actual “per se” wellness. When looking for advice, we can find advice in many different subjects as a group. Some examples are art classes, dance classes, communication classes, language classes, and even nutrition classes can be done in groups. In these cases, the “buzz” of the group you’re a part of is great, because you get to learn more by interacting with others. However, if you have a specific disease or ailment, those might not help. If you need to correct something in your diet or supplementation, etc., etc., you will need to be in a small group, or in one-on-one care. Both group or one-on-one care are helpful, it depends on what you need as a member or what you provide as a provider. It’s good to clarify this here. When discussing your care with a provider, or when discussing what you’ll provide with a mentor, bring this up so that the best can be achieved for all parts involved.
Lesson #6)
This is probably easier said than done, but don’t stay in a bad relationship because you’ll have an empty nest or because you fear being alone. Spread your wings, and fly away, baby.
Lesson #7)
Things people do have nothing to do with you. I guess this is practically part b of lesson #1. This also goes with “don’t judge people.”
Lesson #8)
There’s always unconditional love from somebody. Don’t worry. Live higher, better.
Lesson #9)
There might be people you might never want to see again, but you can forgive them, at your own time, if you feel you need to forgive them.
When Almighty God closes a door, He opens another door. I hope you enter that next door you find. I wish you lots of light, love, and wisdom.
Have a magnanimous weekend,
Girlene
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. – James 1:17
